Dear Laine,
My husband says I'm not being a good wife because I don't always make the bed when we get up in the morning. I have kids to feed, lunches to pack, pets to walk and I have to find time to toss in a load of laundry, and get myself ready for work. I say so what if I don't make the bed every morning. He says it only takes a minute and I should make time for it. What do you say?
Signed,
Bed Tired
Dear Bed Tired,
My first question is what is your husband doing while you are feeding kids, walking dogs, packing lunches and loading laundry? Sounds to me as if he needs a rude awakening to what life is really like in his own house! Does he think those things get done by magic? He is taking you for granted! Put a stop to that!
I told my husband very early in our marriage that if he didn't like the way I did something, to do it himself. Shut him up real fast! He learned to not only like the way I do things, but to LOVE it, if for no other reason than he didn't have to do it himself!
Honey, your husband is in dire need of a lesson in respect! Give him one! Sit him down tonight and tell him that starting tomorrow morning, you will make your bed--but only your side of it! Tell him from now on you will pack only your lunch and wash only your clothes. Let HIM deal with the children, the pets, and those other things he takes for granted you will do. When he gets a full appreciation for what you deal with on a daily basis, he will either help out (preferred response) or at least shut up!
I wish you luck! Be sure to let me know how it works out for you.
Respectfully,
Laine
